This is an article I wrote for the Leather Man NYC a few years ago.
This article contains descriptions of bondage play. When exploring bondage, one should always start with full measures of negotiation, the setting safe words, intention, and discussion of each play partners medical and psychological health and emotional concerns.
We love it…
The click of the padlock, the staccato locking of heavy German cuffs. The cinching of straps across, between, and over. A leather hood is laced over the face, pulling skin across skin, erasing the day away. There is the zipping on of more leather, upon leather, and the bolting of chains or metal stocks to ensure that you are in bloody good bondage. Real bondage. Serious bondage.
Your mouth is filled. Your ears are stuffed. Your fingers…you don’t seem to really have those anymore—not that they’re numb, circulation is fine—but they’ve been melded together with wrapping and then layered with fist mitts so that they resemble more flipper than human hand. Your legs are incapacitated—no running, no kicking. Sans mobility and opposable thumbs, you drift backwards from the thinking, doing world of the human race and transform into a primal thing of need, desire, frustration, fear, calm, contented happiness. A black leather Id, you.
All the while, your Top is surveying the movement of your chest rising and falling. Every so often, putting their hand in front of your breath holes to feel the warm air seeping out. They are poised, ears pricked forward like a cats listening for the slightest warning that might come from the depths of that leather, metal, latex thing they’ve just chained to the top of their bed, cage, sling. It’s 50 percent fun, sadistic, dominating and 50 percent stressful, nurturing, service toppish.
As exhilarating as bondage is, it can be equally fearsome for both Top and bottom, especially when immobilization bondage and layers of sensory deprivation start to surmount the capabilities of communication and/or escape ability. I began exploring bondage first through rope, but became more and more intrigued with gear: leather, latex, metal. I fell in love with all of it. Through the years of accumulating a handsome amount of equipment, I’ve also come up with a list of inexpensive widgets that aid in the application of secure, satisfying bondage, while keeping it safe (as possible).
Those are a handful of easy, inexpensive tips & tricks for bondage fun. I hope that they help to make your exploration more accessible, fun, and safe.
Ms Yin Q.
Bio: Ms Yin Q is a writer and BDSM educator. She conducts private classes for individuals and couples. She is also a ritual work guide.