Around ten years ago, when I first started hearing "they/them" being used for nonbinary and genderqueer friends, I questioned the use, as well as the grammar. I also felt a momentary stab at feminism--why can't we simply expand what it means to be female identified? I used the appropriate pronouns out of respect and care even before the full understanding settled in. The binary is too limiting, conservative, and just not enough. We are ever changing and so is our language- to reflect and inspire greater possibilities.
This is a great site to explain pronouns, identity, and how to be respectful on both sides:
My pronouns are she/her/they/them. My title is Mx.
But you can also just call me Yin.
Maura James and I sit down over tea to talk about my personal healing experience and ritual work in BDSM for her podcast, Unbroken Chain. It's available on:
Mercy Mistress in Taiwan
Mercy Mistress is OUT there in LEZ magazine, a Taiwanese Lesbian publication. As shown, the article is printed in Chinese- my mother-tongue (which I've lost to Americannihilation--my term for assimilation to American culture that wipes out one's heritage). Just seeing this brings up so much love, nostalgia, regret and waves of pride and gratitude. Thank you to the phenomenal Wang Newton, Taiwan-American Drag Kink Extraordinaire, for bringing Mercy Mistress to the land where my family's stories originate.
" Feels radical on many levels talking bout queerness & kink & trauma & domination & sadism & migration & children & elders all in one breath all printed in 中文 " - Poppy Liu